I Make My Children Do Music (VIDEO)

ChildsHandsPianoLessonImagine this… it’s the very beginning of Tommy’s piano lessons. He’s 8 years old and totally psyched about learning to play the piano. He practices constantly, without reminders, and with gusto.

Fast forward a bit… Tommy is 10 years old and practice is starting to wane. He’s involved in more activities, which makes practicing piano difficult to schedule, and it’s starting to become a struggle between Tommy and his parents. After a fight about practicing, Tommy tosses his piano book to the floor and yells the dreaded phrase… “I just want to quit!”

Don’t worry, parents… you’re not alone in this fight. This morning I came across a great video from Scott Lang, a nationally known leadership trainer and music educator. Check it out:

Excerpt:

“We make decisions each and every day in what’s not only the best interest of our children right now, but in the future.

I make my children do much because I know that they have a better chance of not being involved in drugs and alcohol.

… because they’re going to have higher GPAs.

… because it’s going to help with their language acquisition skills.

… because it makes them more likely to go on from college and graduate from college.

… because they’re going to be surrounded by caring, loving, and nurturing people who want what’s best for them.

because I love them.

As a parent, you will likely experience a time when your child no longer practices without being told, or a time when they might fight about having to practice, or a time when they might be discouraged enough that they want to quit.

When that time comes — don’t forget, you aren’t alone! Talk to your child’s teacher and together you should be able to come up with a game-plan. There are lots of resources out there for parents who have gone through exactly what you are going through.

Here are 3 of my Favorite Parent Resources:

How To Motivate Your Child to Practice

3 Things Parents Must Tell Their Children When They Begin a Musical Instrument

101 Piano Practice Tips E-Book

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5 Comments

  • by muzeek Posted June 1, 2015 8:59 pm

    Reblogged this on Suzanne Gilmore Muzeek Blog and commented:
    Great thoughts on a child’s music practice and how to motivate them.

  • by vallennie Posted June 2, 2015 8:02 am

    Reblogged this on musicbestbuys.com and commented:
    Everything you say makes sense, yet I couldn’t ‘make’ my musical son involve himself with lessons and study. Attitudes from School and peers had more influence than did I. The result as you suggested was involvement with marijuana and alcohol, hatred of organisation and school attendance. My beautiful son ended his life at 39 years – we could not reach him. Reasoning did not work. I sincerely hope you can hold influence within your family. A birth in 1963 presented so many difficulties for parents which we were unprepared for. I am a failed parent musician who could not hold influence the way you are able to. May music thrive and hold your family together.

  • by Eliza Posted June 3, 2015 10:56 pm

    Reblogged this on eliza says and commented:
    Should you insist that your children continue learning music, even when they want to stop?
    Here’s what a parent has to say

  • by P.O.Box 1145 Belfast MAINR 04915 Posted June 8, 2015 10:25 pm

    When I was young I wanted a piano, and dad made me promise I would practice 30 min. a day. After a while I wanted to quit, but dad wouldn’t let me. I continued to play, and I am so grateful today that he didn’t let me give it up. Today I play for the worship team at my church, and play for many other occasions. Be encouraging. The minute I got home from school I had to practice, then I could do other things. They will be gratetful when they are grown up, that you didn’t let them quit. Be patient, praise them, and listen to them and you’ll see great results.

    • by Sara @ Sara’s Music Studio Posted June 9, 2015 11:13 am

      Thank you for sharing that story! It’s true… they won’t regret all those lessons. I’ve never heard anyone say, “I wish my parents hadn’t made me learn how to play the piano!”

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